Comments on Quiskaeya: Finding ME in MotherHood

Loooved this post and it's something every mother ...

2009-12-15T13:52:22.624-05:00

Loooved this post and it's something every mother should read. I definitely lost myself in my early motherhood years, but thank goodness I found myself (lol).

I always remind myself that I was a WOMAN before I became a wife and a mother.

I'm still on becoming me and had no clue that 'me'...

2009-12-04T04:07:48.243-05:00

I'm still on becoming me and had no clue that 'me' would take a backseat to being mom.

It's fulfilling and yet I still desire to be fulfilled.

I do agree. Mother hood has made me a better person. I had to be drawn out of myself and focus on others.

I have not yet started the journey of finding my indvidualism, but I have dreams of doing this.

I know that my first one is to return to college. I desire this so much.

...but we'll see.

I did lose me and I had to get back to what made m...

2009-12-03T14:46:35.537-05:00

I did lose me and I had to get back to what made me happy before the babies came around. If you don't you just go crazy. The kids are important, but you can't live your life only for them or through them. Trust me, You'll regret it. ;)
Rania

All parents need time to reconnect with themselves...

2009-12-02T19:42:44.156-05:00

All parents need time to reconnect with themselves. I must admit that men are better at taking time for themselves than women are. My wife wakes up an hour before the kids do in order to have some time to herself. I also facilitate nights out with her and her friends.

I guess for me it is not so much losing myself in ...

2009-12-01T04:20:29.507-05:00

I guess for me it is not so much losing myself in motherhood as it is losing myself in my husband's ministry. There was a time that I was recognized as a great woman of God on my own merits. Lately my role and activities are more of a mother and the wife of a great man of God. I don't mind being known as the wife of a great man of God but sometimes I miss the recognition of the past.

I am involved in the women's ministry assisting the Senior Pastor's wife who is the co-ordinator and other areas of church life but it is not the same. I just recently faced up to the fact that I miss my own individual recognition so this is still raw for me. My husband has not lost the view of me as a great woman of God so that's a good thing but I guess I miss the recognition of others.

Enough sobbing. Have a great day Ana. I'll be posting pics of our ministry trip to Guadeloupe later today.

I don't think I lost me, not yet anyway. I make su...

2009-11-30T22:20:22.178-05:00

I don't think I lost me, not yet anyway. I make sure I take ME time. But as he gets older I know it's going to be more about him and his needs instead of mine.

Not to fear, it comes back. Not until the kids ar...

2009-11-30T15:43:25.826-05:00

Not to fear, it comes back. Not until the kids are much older, but still you do get yourself back in time. It does help to stay focused on what you are during that time so you're not lost when the kids do leave home. I think that's why moms have that "empty nest syndrome" because their whole existence is tied up in them. I think the kids appreciate you more when you have a distinct personality.

I do often feel like I'm losing myself, especially...

2009-11-30T12:51:54.821-05:00

I do often feel like I'm losing myself, especially since, like you, I found myself talking about my little ones more than I talked about myself. Way more. Everything is diaper cream and my baby said her first word and I need a new diaper bag, etc, etc.

I do find that taking at least 10 minutes a day to focus on me helps me to be a better woman, wife and mother....Great post!