Wednesday my son's father (ex-hubby) calls me very upset. He said he got a call from the school saying my son had pinched a girl on the chest. The man (who my ex never bothered to get his name) who called said that we need to have a serious talk with our son because he doesn't want this to happen again. Furthermore, he doesn't want other parents to call the school upset about our son harassing their little girls.

Now my ex-hubby is a rather reserved person, TOTALLY opposite of me. When he got this call he told the man he would definately talk to our son and didn't inquire further into the incident and then hung up the phone. After picking up our son he inquired of him about his day. My son told him he got a "green" (the school has a color system to demonstrate children's level of behaviour). Green is good, yellow is warning and red is trouble. Immediately, my son goes into the mishap of the day. He said 2 of his friends were fighting and he didn't like that one girl hit another girl. He was trying to break them apart and when he grabbed one of the girls he pinched her UNDER HER ARM by the armpit. My ex asked him if he pinched her anywhere else and he said no.

That night after my son was dropped off I asked him to relay the situation as well and once again he told me what happened just as he told his dad. I was puzzled about the way the school handled the situation. I was also a little upset with my ex for not asking more questions of the man who reported the incident. Anyway, Thursday I couldn't resolve the situation because the school was closed. Today I called the school to find out what really transpired. The school office had no incident report with my son. Of course, this made my blood boil!! I was told an immediate investigation would be done to find out who called my ex and I would get a call back.

What upset me beyond the call, was that I am the primary parent on the school forms. EVERYTHING needs to go through me FIRST. If there is any call that needs to be made, they need to make it to me. I know that sounds selfish, but I'm the one that has always handled everything regarding my son and I keep his father informed because I feel it's the right thing to do. Furthermore, the courts have given me primary residential custody, so legally I have greater rights.

Okay so back to the school situation.... I get a return call from the school and they apologized profusely. The PE Teacher had made the call, which was waaaaaay out of line. According to protocol, an incident report has to be made before a call like that can be made to the parent(s). The PE teacher was written up (according to the school) because he shouldn't have used "harassment" to describe what my son did. According to what the PE Teacher said after my son pinched the little girl she was covering her chest with her hand so he ASSUMED she had been pinched on the chest. I asked how come the my son got a "green" if the PE teacher felt he had "harassed" another student. The school couldn't answer that!! Lastly, the school realized that all calls must go through me and that his father is only listed as an emergency contact. The school realized they really dropped the ball on this one. I'm just flabbergasted myself and now doubting my decision to put him in this school over the school he was in last year. I guess I'll give it until December to see if I'll tranfer him back.